Sunday, May 11, 2008

If love looked in the mirror... would see my mother's face.

I love this saying, because it is so true. I once gave my mother a card with this on it and it still sits on her desk after two years:) My mother means the world to me and it occured to me that she may not even realize just how much. As with most mother/daughter relationships we haven't always seen eye to eye (especially through teenage years;), but my mom has always been so wonderful and always made sure her children had everything they ever needed and then some. I know this post will not come anywhere close to expressing my love and appreciation for all that she has done for me but I thought I would list some of the moments that has shaped my relationship with her.

My mother was a working mom, I remember her staying up very late, cleaning and organizing after an already very long day at the Bank, we always had a clean home.

My mom always made sure we had dental appointments, clean teeth, braces. Some people may look at this and think this is such a silly thing but what you need to know is that we did not always have money for such things, my mom would save up and make sure these things were taken care of. I am sure this has a lot to do with why I LOVE teeth and was a dental assistant for five years (and married someone who is aspiring to be a dentist, imagine that!). Now we can take care of her teeth someday:)

No matter what she always loves me! I can say this with confidence because I can attest that she now has to have regular hair appointments to cover all of the gray hairs I gave her;) One of the defining moments in my relationship with my mother was shortly after my engagement to a guy that she had never even met (long story) it was a pretty painful ordeal for her how I went about things (sorry mom!). I ended up needing surgery while our relationship was still healing from this and she never hesitated when I needed her the most. After the surgery I ended up having some sort of reaction to a medication that had been given to me and the nurses hurried in to give me something to counteract it, I remember looking up at my mom, she was so concerned, so worried, and a tear streamed down her cheek. I always knew she loved me but I can tell you that that was the moment I knew for certainty the depth of her love.

Holidays have always been so special in our home. I love to think about all of the wonderful traditions we have enjoyed throughout the years. My mother has a knack for heartfelt gifts, she gives a lot of thought into what she gives, I really love that about her.

Tearing the dryer sheets in half. Ok this is just funny, for years I tore my dryer sheets in half because that is what my mom always did. After years of not seeing the reasoning behind it I finally asked my mom why she tore them in half to which she replied "I don't know, my mom always did it".

My mother has been with me for the birth of both of my children, and I am forever grateful to have had her there (not to mention the week or so she stays afterwards to help me out). She is such an amazing nana, I really couldn't ask for anything more. She loves her grandbabies and spoils them rotten, and oh how they love her so!

Something my mother may not even know about herself is that she is hilarious. I can't even describe what makes her so funny, I really think she just says things so innocently and she doesn't even realize how funny it is until we are all laughing, which makes her laugh, I love it:)
(my mom, me, my sister, and Jaden)
I can't really say "lastly" because there is so much more but I've got to end it at some point;) Ever since I was very young my mother has taught me some of the most important virtues in life and I must say it was mostly by example. She has taught me to be respectful of others and their property (I feel this is so important and is ever becoming a lost virtue in our society), she has taught me to be giving, to be honest, to not care what others think (this is a work in progress;) but most importantly she has taught me what it means to be a good mother. I may not have it all down yet but I just wanted her to know I was paying attention and I will always be grateful to call her "mom".

Happy Mother's Day

1 comment:

Shannon said...

I loved this post. Maybe it's just the sociologist in me that loves to hear about family dynamics. I especially loved the story of when she was in the hospital with you and had tears running down her cheeks and you knew more of the depth of her love.
love that last picture of you two.
p.s. need to hear the un-engagement story